Alejandro Jodorowsky
He says that a ‘healthy tree’ is one that produces sweet, nutritious fruit, even if its outward appearance is that of a ‘twisted’ tree…
A ‘majestic tree’ that produces ‘toxic’ fruit is a sick tree…
To heal is to betray the original intention of our family tree…
To say no is to break the tree’s neurotic maintenance contract…
‘The healing of the family tree consists in removing the repetition, understanding it or repeating it in a positive form’…
What is family?
Family is permanence, it was there before we arrived… We belong to it for as long as we live and will continue to exist after us…
It’s a generation of living people, walking at least two generations of dead people on their backs to the finish line, where it’s up to them to ride on the backs of the next generation of living people…
Am I my family?

Let’s remember that from the point of view of ‘metagenealogy’, each of us is inhabited by the ‘three generations that precedes us, which makes at least 14 people’…
From this point of view, we believe that secrets kept in one generation are an unhealthy source of trauma and conflict for those who come after…
Is there a link between illness and family secrets?
The relationship between illness and family secrets becomes fairly obvious when you study family trees…
The family is like a psychological jar filled with :
Secrets
Taboos
Silence
Shame…
Insanity, theft, infidelity, prison, incest, abuse…
In this way, illness is not the solution to the problem, but an invitation to face up to a family conflict that has remained secret…
Françoise Dolto wrote:
‘What is silent in the first generation, the second carries in the body’…
What things, at a psycho-genealogical level, are carried in the body?

On the right-hand side…
is the paternal inheritance…
On the left side…
Maternal heritage…
– The Belly… The Mother…
– Back… Fathers…
– Divorced parents, or separated toes tips…
– Fear of sexuality, pelvis backwards…
– They didn’t love you, hardened and insensitive breasts…
If I don’t use words to express my pain, will I express it with my body?
Anne Ancelin Schützenberger has studied this in depth:
– Duels not fought
– Unshed tears
– Family secrets
– Unconscious identity cards… and
– Invisible family loyalties…
They wander over the sons and descendants…
‘What cannot be expressed in words is expressed in pain…
‘Or by accident’, as in the case of a great-granddaughter who loses her virginity by accident at the age of seven (while pole-vaulting) and, on studying her tree, discovers that her great-grandmother was the fruit of a rape, conceived on the same date as the episode occurred…
How can you see the secrets in a family tree?

When the tree wants to reveal a secret to you, it creates a structure, something that repeats itself, that’s what it wants to bring to your attention…
For example, a recurring date, a style of couple’s choice, accidents with similar ingredients…
These secrets are kept out of shame, modesty, protecting children or protecting yourself from society…
♪ Where do these secrets lie?
Each secret we have is in the stratum that belongs to it (the four 4 egos):
1. My secret crazy ideas can be identified at the level of my ‘great-grandparents’.
2. My secret emotions are in my ‘grandparents’.
3. My sexual-creative secrets are in my ‘parents’.
4. My material, territorial secrets are in my ‘brothers’.
When a secret is carried by a family member, they experience it as a foreign and annoying body, their body experiences it as a tumour or a bolus of food that needs to come out…
We must never tell children secrets, because that’s child mistreatment!
We also know the power of non-verbal communication. If someone in front of you withholds important information, they will sooner or later denounce themselves with an unconscious gesture…

Freud said:

He whose lips are silent, speaks with his fingertips…
He betrays himself through every pore.’
Claudine Vegh said:
‘It is better to know a truth, even if it is difficult, shameful or tragic, than to hide it, because what is kept silent is subordinated or guessed by others and this secret becomes a more serious trauma in the long term’….
Secrets need to be uncovered if they are from the present, in the most appropriate way and at the most opportune moment, or healed through psychomagy if they are from the past…
*A useful tool is to draw the healed tree’.
The idea is to make a room in which we represent all the members, with drawings or photos stuck together in collage mode…
We’ll give each of them their own objective, everything we give them we give ourselves, and then all the secrets will appear, transformed into blessings…
The tree keeps secrets, while trying to reveal them…
In every tree appears at some point a hero, the one who heals it and himself, the one who dares to build the family tree…
There are no healthy trees because we live in a sick society…
‘Healing the tree consists in removing repetition, understanding it or repeating it in a positive form’…

Source : Alejandro Jodorowsky